Toda La Familia: A Discussion About Trans Inclusion in Latinx Families and Communities [Video]
February 3, 2022
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VIDEO
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We invite you to join us for a meaningful conversation about the impact family members and family values can have on young Latinx LGBTQ+ people, especially young Latinx trans folks.
Transcript provided by YouTube:
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hello everyone my name is jose soto and
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i work as a digital media manager at hrc
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i am thrilled to be here with all of you
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for this very special conversation
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titled today we’re continuing our latinx
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heritage month celebration by talking to
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two latinx families who understand the
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complexities of being latinx and having
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lgbtq plus family members particularly
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transgender family members i’m thrilled
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to be joined by both the garcia family
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and the vahil family the garcia family
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are joining us from california and laura
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who is elio’s mother volunteers with
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trans family support services which
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provides guidance support advocacy
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coaching and services for transgender
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and gender non-conforming youth and
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we’re also going to be joined by adeline
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and alamalez vikir from texas adeline’s
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story was recently featured in one of
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our most inspiring impactful videos
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which we’ll be showing later during our
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conversation the video is part of hrc’s
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latin x and proud campaign which is
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created to celebrate and observe latinx
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adam alice is part of our parents for
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transgender equality council and has
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been a strong hrc supporter for quite
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some time let’s bring on alamalis and
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you’re doing well thank you
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thank you it’s good to see both of you
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thank you guys for joining us for this
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meaningful conversation and observance
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conversations in history alemales tell
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identifying as latinx impacts your
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relationship with adeline what is your
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experience like in your household
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understanding it’s mostly latinx um
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comprised right your household yes
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yes um my both my parents and my in-laws
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uh were born and raised in mexico
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support adelaine the way it helped me
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um understand her more was because since
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our family is very close-knit
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experiencing this with her and
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having all the support from our family
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uh since we’re so uh close and we have
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very near us practically some living in
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have very strong connection with her and
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you know support each other and
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it made it easy i want to say we had the
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better piece of the pie i could say
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because oliver family was very
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supportive and since we’re so close and
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united um that means a lot and that
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helped in tremendous ways so
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we were one of the lucky ones
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to have uh such supportive latin next
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um which is which made it very easy
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kind of let her grow and be herself
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yeah that’s great um i myself come from
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the great connection and chemistry that
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we have as a family definitely helped
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um when it came to me coming out and
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by them being supportive of me and
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acknowledging myself as an individual
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understand where you’re coming from
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uh unique experience to have such a
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relationship with the family members in
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your household i’m curious adeline what
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about for yourself like what has that
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since you’re leaving authentically how
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and supportive household uh mean for you
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like how could i say this like
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oh it helps it helps me a lot because
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even before i transitioned like
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like i’ve always felt the love and i
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think that’s part of our culture so
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after i transitioned like it was the
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what about your community particularly
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the area that you live in um i think
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it’s the rio grande valley it’s it’s
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mostly predominantly mexican and mexican
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american so how has it been growing up
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in a predominantly latinx community
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particularly at school have you
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significant bullying or has your
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experience been a little bit more
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positive and folks um bring on their
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family values to a school setting they
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like i mentioned there’s predominantly
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mexicans so i’m assuming that a lot of
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bring on their their family values to
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the school environment um so i’m just
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curious what has that experience been
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their beliefs and like um like they go
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home and their parents tell them to
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believe these stuff that they say like
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so they go back to school and then they
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bully me and they tell me all these
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stuff but just because they heard it
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and i think that has a lot to do with
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like machismo and because of our
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yeah you bring up a good point um
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machismo is it’s continues to be a
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prevalent issue within the latinx
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community a lot of communities right but
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um within our community i think it
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of true connection with the people
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around us just because we
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are insisting of things that are so
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dated um and sometimes that impacts our
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relationships that we could be having
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positive relationships that we could be
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um whether it be at work or at school we
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on that mentality um so addressing that
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and you also touched a little bit upon
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religion we’ll be talking a little bit
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religion uh religion’s impact on latinx
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willing to participate in one of our
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hrc’s videos it’s been it’s received
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great feedback and great reception from
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our audiences i want to personally thank
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you on behalf of hrc uh for being
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so giving uh and and willing to share
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and play the video now um
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like i said it’s beautiful it was
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released earlier uh this month at the
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start of latinx heritage month it’s
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titled trans kids need our support 12
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year old adeline shares why um so let’s
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go ahead and watch the video now
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that i have to explain to people that
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you know i i can’t underscore just how
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amazing that video is and how impactful
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your story is adeline um again thank you
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for sharing your story i think that your
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vulnerability is really where the power
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of this video lies both yours and your
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i think also some of the reason why it’s
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so insightful and impactful
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is because it’s so relatable even though
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um that you’re having they’re coming
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like from us from a space of uh an
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understanding of someone um so young
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it it’s so relatable though because
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latinx lgbtq folks share similar stories
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and experience regardless of age
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um you know i see you engaging with your
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mom and your abuela in the kitchen and
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that really drives home the point that
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you make that like hey i’m normal um i’m
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just like any other girl i’m just like
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any other teenager any other youth um
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and that’s very powerful message to
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what do you feel when you
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watch this video like um and
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now that it’s been out for a while
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has it and has it empowered you in some
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way or what is your experience it like
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now that your story’s out
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how does it you can just say whatever
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comes to mind and everything you’re like
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like cool like that people now know
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and maybe i it’s also cool that like
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maybe i changed somebody’s
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opinion that makes me feel good inside
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like that i might have changed somebody
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and they might have thought negatively
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but after watching my video they could
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really relate to what’s going on to me
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yeah i agree i think that’s really cool
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i think you sharing your story
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so authentically and so openly is really
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and the power of that is that you’ll be
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changing minds um i’m sure that already
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has happened as we continue pushing the
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during and past latinx heritage month um
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i’m sure a lot of hearts and minds will
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be changed too what about you adeline
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what what um i’m sorry what about you
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adam alice what what do you feel what
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comes to mind when you watch it
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when i watch this video i i
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i tear up every time i watch it
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me as a parent you know as an lgbtq
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and i am as as fearful as they are um
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they that i also need the support that i
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also need the power to protect my child
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and all i want is for my child to have a
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so i hope that they take that in mind
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and i and i also hope that i change at
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least one person’s uh point of view
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i really hope that um i mean there’s a
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that that involve adeline’s story that i
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change at least one mind so knowing that
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there’s they have we have this video to
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kind of share you know and and kind of
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help them understand us better
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it helps me and it gives me peace of
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we can change it little by little
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yeah um i think you touched upon
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something that’s very important you had
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mentioned that as a parent of an lgbtq
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plus youth you need support and really
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that’s what we also are trying to
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do by sharing um adeline’s story
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while family is powerful we can get a
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lot of things done through family we’re
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also a community and so we need each
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other to get things uh done to advocate
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for one another and truly create
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that are positive for the community but
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for everyone right not just for specific
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individuals um and i think that’s that’s
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going going into this going into the
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advocacy world and and trying to speak
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at least in my community in our
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we lack a lot of representation in the
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you know aspect you know there’s not a
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lot of spanish information there’s not a
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advocates for for hispanic side and um
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i think we really need to be that voice
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and and bring awareness that hey there’s
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a lot of people in our vladimix
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community that need to speak up and it’s
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discrimination and and just go with it
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especially for our youth you know so
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i realized how well going into this i
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realized how little representation we
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bring awareness to that too so
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is very powerful for me so
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of course um i want to welcome the
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garcia family um to join our
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conversation they’re coming in from
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um laura hey guys how are you doing
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hola bienvenidos buenas tardes hola
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laura is joining us with her son elio
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who identifies as transgender as well
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laura does volunteer work with
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transgender family support services um i
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had mentioned this earlier but it’s an
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organization that provides guidance
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support advocacy coaching and services
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for transgender and gender nonconforming
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youth and their families uh bienvenidos
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to both of you so good for you to uh be
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joining us so what did you guys think
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about alin’s video and story what what
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thoughts do you guys have
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i’ll start with you lara um every time i
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see that video i start crying
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um and probably i would start crying
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adam ali said it just it just gets in
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your heart you know the protection of
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our children we all parents i don’t care
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um blue green purple we all want the
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same we want our children to be safe we
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want children to be happy
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um so the fact that we have to fight
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for children to be respected
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the same rights in the same respect very
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everybody else it hits really really
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deep um especially in our community we
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know i don’t care if you’re you know
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mexican like me if you cannot tell for
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and uh my son is first generation so we
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have heard it all we know what people
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say about us we’re criminals we’re lazy
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we’re this with that so why we as a
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community are doing that to ourselves
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um it it hits really really deep because
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if anybody knows what it is to be
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treated with less respect that everybody
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that the rest of the people is us
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and for us family is everything
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so um every time i see that video it’s
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yeah you bring a good point up of these
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being mexican being latinx um
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or from a latinx family and community
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already that presents challenges and
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hardships and then we still have to not
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only defend that aspect of our lives but
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also the aspects of our of our loved
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ones where it’s like they are not only
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um confronting these challenges these
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challenges themselves but they’re also
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um confront the challenges of
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identifying as lgbtq plus right um so
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it’s kind of like two battles at the
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elio i want to hear from you what were
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your thoughts when you were seeing the
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video i’m um am i wrong to assume that
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the lean story resonates with you
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oh absolutely it definitely resonates
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and i think that this point of
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is really what makes this video so
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powerful you know when i was uh coming
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out and exploring my gender identity i
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thought for a long time that there was
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no way i could be transgender because i
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didn’t see anyone like me you know i
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didn’t see anyone that was mexican and
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transgender and so i thought oh well
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there must be no one then so i can’t be
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um and so the fact that this video is
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showing that transgender people are
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i think is so important and not only
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that you know there’s this big stigma
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that the transgender community you know
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our deviants and the whole topic about
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transgender people is like this taboo
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topic but in reality it’s not in videos
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like this show that no transgender
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people are people and furthermore
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and their families and we’re familia and
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um you know i’m citing with this this is
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reason why my family my son and and
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myself we decided to started supporting
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the organization that supported us that
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guided us trent family support services
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was pivotal for my family and for my son
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with the superb groups for children we
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have super groups for um teenagers for
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younger adults for little ones or uh
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client goes from three years old to six
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to three years old and it was important
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help other families it was also
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important for trust family support
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services for them to know there’s
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um it just really you know when i when
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to to know that we’re not alone let me
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tell you we’re not alone there’s a whole
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support behind us by us and the side we
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have uh we have made connections with
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families in mexico central america latin
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america south america espana argentina
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i really want to take the opportunity to
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by helping other people cnns like my son
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always says they take a lot of effort
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trying to make us invisible
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most definitely most definitely um and i
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the issue of visibility um especially
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lgbtq plus children because i think that
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sometimes as a as a community as a
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latinx community we think of these
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issues sort of like grown-up issues like
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there’s no way that this can exist
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amongst our children um and we we
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definitely need to do a lot a lot more
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bringing visibility to what they are
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experiencing experiencing as latinx
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uh who identify as lgbtq plus
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and provide them with authenticity right
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not just kind of brush it off as a phase
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or something that they’re just confused
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with i think sometimes as latinos and
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miss it um so i do thank you for
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touching up on that point because it’s
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very uh important elio you as a as
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you’re in college or you’re you’re
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a bit older than adeline um
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is still impactful even for folks of
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your age people who identify as lgbtq
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plus uh and latinx but are a bit older
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than natalie do you think that
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those issues stay prevalent even though
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you’re you’re a bit older than adeline
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um what is that experience like of being
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a college age um but seeing that someone
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as young as adeline is is
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um experiencing the issues that you
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might be still experiencing or but
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definitely experienced in the past
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absolutely i think that this issue is
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one that keeps going for you know the
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kind of a fight that we continuously
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um i think the main difference is that
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middle school high school you’re
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counting on the adults in your lives to
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make the correct decisions you know
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you’re counting on your parents your
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teachers to vote the way that
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but once you get into college and you’re
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around voting age you now get to do the
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advocacy yourself and so i think that it
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is something that is very important to
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keep thinking about once you grow up and
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start going to college or enter the
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workforce because you know college isn’t
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for everyone and that’s totally okay
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um but once you get older you are able
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to now be part of the movement you know
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i was able to vote in the 2020 election
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one of the most important elections of
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u.s history for as long as i’ve been
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alive at least and been able to vote um
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so i think these issues definitely carry
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on as you’re older except now you can be
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um i’m curious to know laura and adam
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when you hear and see your children
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advocates for lgbtq plus equality what
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is that experience like as
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it is just i cannot even express it um i
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think that um we all have it doesn’t
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really matter in my opinion if you’re
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you know from a small town in mexico a
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small town in south texas
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things that we share in our blood you
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know family la sangre espiritu corazon
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comunidad there’s so many things that
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they mean the same for everyone
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i’m very proud of my son not only
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that um courage to be himself
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but only not only that but he’s all also
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have the courage and the patience to
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there are so many things that i still do
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there are so many things that i still do
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as a family that we’re here
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to respect each other and more important
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because you know my grand
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my grandmother my mother um said you
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know i don’t understand when we had the
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family meeting and my son came out to
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the whole family um she said i don’t
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understand but i will love you forever
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however it wasn’t until a year later
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that she started using you know the
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and now it is fluid como nada
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you know this is elio was always part of
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the family even when he was little
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and i think that that is very important
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because we know as a family and as a
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community that we love each other we
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always love each other but there’s a lot
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of decisions that we take in our
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families and we need to understand are
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they coming for a place to fear are they
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coming from a place to love
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and a lot of the time the intersex you
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know especially for me i’m from a
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generation from a small town with
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religion and everything it was
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everything in my town any anything that
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any big festival any big fiesta it was
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because it has to do something with
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religion so that was another thing that
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i wanted to bring as having a latinate
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chapter kind of um services for trans
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family support services something that
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it would be intersecting with everything
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because we’re not only madres
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we’re abuelas mothers diaz we come with
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a lot of wonderful baggage
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what about you at the malays any
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i feel very proud of my daughter um
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was true to herself from a very very
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young age like i told you uh once um
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since she was three she’s been
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so hearing her advocate for herself now
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and and say yes to any interview and
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speak up for her lgbt community
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it’s very powerful um i was brought up
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politics you know i didn’t know anything
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about politics i didn’t know anything
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things like that and i had to learn now
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because of my daughter and seeing her
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being knowledgeable of all that and
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have the guts at 12 years old to go and
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testify and go and speak up for herself
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and do press conferences and now that it
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it’s very powerful and i i’m so thankful
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i’m learning with her as well but it
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her it’s not only advocated in english
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but also in spanish it’s it’s very very
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yes claro um and it makes us proud to
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both adeline and elio and a lot of other
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latinx lgbtq plus young advocates push
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for equality uh amongst their
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communities um both of you touched on
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something that i think is
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the extension of family and the
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importance of not only finding support
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and inclusivity within your immediate
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family right your your your parents your
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but also among your your grandmothers
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and your grandparents and your diaz
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yourself your abuelos your cousins your
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primos i mean sometimes the dog is even
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important in a lot of next families
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united and and have such a unique bond
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as as latinos and latinx folks that the
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work is it carries on to that you know
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finding support finding love and finding
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inclusivity within your extended family
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is also important and part of that also
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what’s important is religion so i want
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to talk a little bit about religion and
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latinx lgbtq plus families but before we
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get into that conversation
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i want to watch um a video that touches
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on the experience of latinx lgbtq
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entailing religion it’s called before
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god we are all family so let’s go ahead
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we live in a culture where faith and
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family share one symbolic relationship
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but how do you stay truthful to the
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person you were born to be when you’re
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told that who you are is wrong
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my brothers looked at females because
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they wanted to be with the female i
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looked at females more like oh i wish i
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how do you come out and still maintain a
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close relationship with your family
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in high school my youngest daughter came
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and shortly after that a few months
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came out that she is lesbian i had my
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first experience with a woman in the
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united states and i was very
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confused and started questioning myself
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i had people that wanted to follow me on
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twitter or that wanted to you know
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and i would really sit and think about
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it because then if if they were friends
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with me on facebook they would see a
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side of my life that not a lot of people
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what backlash are my parents going to
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who are we to question who god created
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who are we to question our capacity for
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a lot of hard-hitting and relatable
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messages and stories in that video right
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having to deal with our families and and
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what how religion plays a part in that
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um lana let’s start with you what what
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does this media make you feel and think
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very important for my from my family uh
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i was i always said you know to people
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that i’m a recovering catholic like i
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said i come from a very small community
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and um the way that i was brought up it
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was a very constricted and restricted
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i do believe in god and um this is going
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to make my my son laugh because you know
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packing to college i put the crucifix
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that my grandmother gave me when i came
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to united states by myself
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and then the grandfather gave him the
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in um mexico city in the basilica de
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guadalupe so you know we were he was
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having protection coming from all over
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all over the family even though for him
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it doesn’t really mean anything
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but he knows that because it has so many
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deep meanings to us he’s very respectful
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um he knows that when we go see
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there’s no major protection that that if
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you well i would give you a blessing
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hey well here i come i’m ready
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so having all this and having the
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experience of my son being transgender
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and especially with the families that i
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started supporting through trans family
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support services it was always a point
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you know mitias cristiana no quieramijo
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there was always something in there
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so there was something that i was not
35:18
able able to understand very deeply and
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i was not able to guide the families
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continuing quest to look for resources i
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was lucky enough to found this video and
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to find all the resources the hrc has in
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you know the different research that
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they have done covering different
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mormons christians catholic i have not
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been able to find any other information
35:50
so this project was very important to me
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because it is important to my community
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it may not be very important for my son
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you know but he took the crux of us
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and grandma gave him all the blessings
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that she could have so he would be safe
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yeah i will say that you know i’m we i i
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mean it we as latinos and and i myself
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and mexican and come from a mexican
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what is meaningful is like the symbolism
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religion and and the importance that it
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has on some of our family members and so
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those meanings as opposed to like
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religion collectively um elia what about
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you what what what are your thoughts
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yeah so i’m not i wouldn’t consider
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myself like a super religious person um
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but my extended family definitely does
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believe in god specifically my
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and so when i was you know coming to
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terms with my gender identity i was
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actually very nervous to tell them
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because religion is one of those things
37:04
that are very personal from person to
37:06
person from religion to religion so one
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person can read one line of scripture
37:10
and think great god wants me to love
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everyone and the other person could read
37:14
the exact same scripture and think great
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i’m going to love everyone except gay
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people because that’s what god says
37:20
because it’s a very personal thing and
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there’s lots of interpretations and lots
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of ways to follow and so you know we
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love to think that love will support
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people that love us will always support
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us but sometimes unfortunately that’s
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so i was very nervous to tell my
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because of that religion aspect and i
37:38
was very lucky that you know love did
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come out and love did end up like
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winning in terms of that sort of
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struggle with what is more important
37:48
but that’s not the case for a lot of
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um so i was very lucky but i was very
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nervous because of that religious aspect
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i’m sure it’s the case for
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go ahead all right i was just i’m just
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gonna be a mother i was gonna say elio
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you were not lucky my love you were
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similar uh experiences and cases with a
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lot of other communities right but
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because religion is so prevalent and so
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um strong within the latinx community
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us who identify as lgbtq it it’s it
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presents some sort of challenges at
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at some point make us think of like how
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disclose all this information
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with for a community because you said
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elio you had mentioned that it’s pretty
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even though it is it religion is very
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communal right so it’s it’s everywhere
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within our community so um it does
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present a challenge but i agree with you
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once we get over that hurdle we find
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love um through religion um
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adeline you as a young person this
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conversation might be a little bit um
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your thing to talk about right but like
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what are your thoughts there how do you
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religion and whether that helps you or
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does it present different challenges to
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it definitely presents challenges
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growing up i was always very religious
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and i was always with my grandmother so
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and then when i kind of came to knowing
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myself and being my true self
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i kind of distanced myself from religion
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like the way that they would talk about
39:36
people uh people from the lgbtq
39:39
it made me realize that if i were to
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i would get hated on or i would i could
39:47
i could get bullied from like people
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preaching the word of god or
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so it made me distance myself from
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religion and i still believe in god and
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i just practice like on my own now
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i i am too scared to to like go to
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yeah and i think so that’s something
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that a lot of lgbtq plus latinx folks
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experience um personally i have a very
40:14
similar story and had to kind of
40:18
significantly from from the church and
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its importance in in my upbringing um
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so yeah you’re not alone in that
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um but what about what it it helps folks
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with because i i know that through
40:36
religion and through um her belief in
40:39
god my mom was really able to
40:43
become supportive and accepting and
40:45
inclusive of my identity very quickly
40:48
because it was like well god teaches us
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to love and because of this principle
40:53
we’re not going to create different
40:55
challenges for you it is what it is and
40:57
we’re we’re going to love you no matter
40:59
what do folks feel like that is also the
41:01
case within your families does religion
41:07
find love and acceptance a bit quicker
41:09
it facilitates that experience because
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of our religious upbringings
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i feel i feel like i i kind of want to
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shadow elio’s point of view there
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because since it’s very it can be uh
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taken very very different ways you know
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i i think it depends on how
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the the family or the person wants to
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take the word of god or the religion and
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we’re gonna love you no matter what
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which is kind of what our family did
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but not everybody has that you know
41:47
experience so we were like i said the
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one of the blessed ones uh
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that we had family that that uh took it
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that way but like elio said it it’s all
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perceive it and how they want to see it
42:05
i think that has a lot to do with how
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your family and and or your community is
42:13
that’s a very strong point eliot made
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lara did you have anything to add to
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um in my family it was you know because
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we’re on recovery catholics um i think
42:27
that we use we chose to use
42:31
the word of god to be respectful of my
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i think also that that helped a lot
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faith help a lot especially my mother
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when she was going through all the
42:46
of accepting of you know like off
42:54
uh my son’s jewelry through reality and
42:58
i think that for my mother especially it
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was very very helpful to be able to have
43:04
because at the end she always says you
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know god does not make mistakes
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i’m just you know like adeline
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we have beautiful beautiful beautiful
43:21
children they’re changing the world that
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they truly themselves and they have more
43:26
courage than the little pinky that i
43:28
will ever have in my whole life
43:30
so we you know we just follow the lead
43:33
we pray for their safety and we are just
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so lucky and so blessed that we’re in
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california when we have so many laws in
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schools when we have so many laws and
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businesses and the state government
43:55
you know you touch on something that’s
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that’s very important not only
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during latinx heritage month
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particularly for latinx lgbtq plus folks
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equal protections legal protections for
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lgbtq plus people not only latinx lgbtq
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plus people but everyone um and that’s
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marginalized communities and um
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leads us to the conversation of the
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equality act the passing of the equality
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act would guarantee legal protections
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not just for people like us um
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but other individuals that are part of
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our community not only lgbtq plus
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people of color bipoc people transgender
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folks um women right and so i i
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want to end the conversation
44:53
of addressing and advocating for the
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equality act during latinx heritage
44:58
month particularly through a queer
45:00
latinx lens but beyond that right and so
45:05
talked about um voting in a very
45:08
significant presidential election
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on the topic of the equality act what
45:14
are your thoughts there and
45:20
happening with the equality act and how
45:23
would it um provide protections for
45:28
absolutely so um like mentioned before
45:31
you know i do live in california and i’m
45:34
in san francisco and i was able to vote
45:38
you know in the 2020 election and then
45:40
recently um last month in the
45:46
sorry i forgot how to say that word
45:48
um but essentially with the equality act
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we would get a lot of the same
45:52
protections you know in texas that we
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are seeing in other states like
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california for example my school we have
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gender neutral restrooms in every
46:04
even if a transgender person were to
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exist outside of the gender binary of
46:08
you know trans women or trans man would
46:11
still have a place to be able to feel
46:13
comfortable and use the restroom
46:17
furthermore you know i was born in texas
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laredo texas and while it was super easy
46:22
here in california because of those
46:24
protections to be able to change you
46:25
know my legal name and my gender marker
46:28
on my id because my birth certificate is
46:30
from texas that’s going to be a lot more
46:33
difficult to change and without the
46:34
equality act will probably i’ll probably
46:36
never have a birth certificate that
46:39
correctly you know reflects who i am and
46:44
the most important thing here is that
46:45
you know texas is a beautiful state
46:47
there are beautiful people in texas and
46:49
so with the equality act will really be
46:51
able to help support and protect these
46:57
ellen in your video you mentioned the
46:58
importance of the equality act because
47:01
um of things that you’ve experienced at
47:03
school um and also you you include your
47:07
experiences with having asthma and
47:11
a conflict if you were to god forbid
47:15
in need of medical care so as a young as
47:19
a very young lgbtq plus latinx
47:23
how do you see yourself continuing to
47:26
advocate for the passing of the equality
47:31
i don’t get like i don’t get that
47:34
like yeah like as you continue to grow
47:39
do you want to continue advocating for
47:41
the passing of the equality act oh yes a
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uh not only would i benefit from it but
47:49
everybody in the united states would
47:51
benefit from it and texas in texas
47:55
i mean it wouldn’t just create
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it’s for everyone right um well not
48:02
everyone but folks that are actually
48:04
you could you could drive from texas to
48:07
another state and your rights would
48:10
uh drastically and so yeah you’re right
48:13
it would create uh provide protections
48:17
people within our community um
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do you have anything to add on to that
48:23
um i would like to add that another
48:26
advantage also that um protection
48:29
um you know not only for transgender for
48:33
gender diverse relaxing bipod
48:37
this this year has been very difficult
48:39
we have seen the best of humanity we
48:41
have seen the worst of humanity so by
48:45
loss is actually very important because
48:47
they’re not only protecting the people
48:49
that is affected by those laws but it
48:52
also allows the education of other
48:56
because we have the laws that we have in
48:57
california trans family support services
49:02
and educates teachers and staff
49:06
they go to hospitals we work with
49:09
different medical services because
49:12
we also want them to be able to support
49:19
gender diverse people we go to
49:22
businesses you know if somebody is not
49:25
only because there may be somebody that
49:27
is gender diverse at their business but
49:29
it’s just because some business in
49:31
california they’re very open to
49:33
educating themselves because when we
49:38
so um having laws that are actually
49:40
changing is not only changing to
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protection but also changing with
49:44
education and with education they’re
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great folks well i just want to thank
50:00
and contributing to such an amazing and
50:08
address and shine light spotlight the
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issues that lgbtq plus latinx folks like
50:15
their challenges ahead of us but as long
50:18
as we stick together and advocate for
50:20
what we know is right i think that we
50:21
have a bright future ahead of us
50:24
thank you also for helping me celebrate
50:26
and observe latinx heritage month um a
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very happy ladder next heritage month to
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each of you um and again just thank you
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so much for your time it’s it’s it’s
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been uh fun it’s been great
50:37
thank you thank you thank you
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